It’s every potential groom’s nightmare… you get down on your knee, so to speak, and the engagement ring is met with less enthusiasm than you had hope. Chances are high that she will not turn down the proposal purely because of a bad ring choice, but even if she still says yes, making her happy is your biggest goal in life. When she does not fall head over heels in love with the ring you have chosen, it can be daunting to know what to do next.
Needless to say, it is obviously better to avoid this situation by avoiding the most common ring mistakes, and doing your homework in advance. Sometimes however, even the best laid plans go astray. If you have done plenty of research, asking every friend and family member in sight what she would and would not like, you may find that her preferences are not as easy to guess as they would seem.
How to Handle an Engagement Ring Disappointment
Before you go into a full panic, here are a few things to keep in mind on how to handle engagement ring rejection…
- Encourage open communication. Honesty between both parties is an integral part of marriage. Try not to get defensive or upset if she is not thrilled about the ring. Instead, find out why she is not in love with it. Jewellery choices are often personal. Sometimes women go through phases. Other times, she may like the idea of something, only to realise that it is not her style. Whatever the case, knowing how she feels (and why) is the first step.
- Find out what she does want in a ring. Once you know why she was not oohing and aahing instantly over your ring choice, find out what would make her speechless with delight. This is a good reason to pop the question with a dummy ring, and do the shopping together. It is hard to know exactly what she will like until she tries on a few rings and sees how they look in real life. Having some idea will help you find a replacement, if that is possible.
- Talk to your jeweller. If you had the ring made, find out whether it is possible to adjust it without breaking the bank. Replacing it will likely cost a fair amount, as rings take a great deal of time, precious metals and stones, and skill. But your future bride may be happy with an alteration that is not overly expensive.
The absolute best option is to avoid making a poor choice in the first place. It is natural to want to surprise her with something sparkly that you have chosen. You may even have a ring that has been in the family for generations. Ultimately, as this is something she will wear for the rest of her married life, she should have the final say in choosing the ring design.
If you’re looking for assistance with a custom engagement ring, contact Cape Diamonds today. We will help you plan a dream ring that is everything your bride ever wanted, and more.