What to do if You Don’t Love Your Engagement Ring

Few moments are as unforgettable as the moment you are presented with an engagement ring. Whether your beloved planned a proposal that will go down in history as the most romantic event of all time or it was a deeply personal event for just the two of you, seeing that ring and hearing those words is something you will remember forever.

What happens if the ring you are given is not something you would have chosen yourself? Worse still, what happens if you know at first sight you don’t see yourself wearing it day in and day out? Being unhappy about an engagement ring may seem like the end of the world but it doesn’t have to be if you handle the situation properly.

What Happens if You Don’t Adore Your Engagement Ring?

To avoid the most romantic moment of your life turning into something awkward or uncomfortable, here are a few tips to consider if you don’t love your engagement ring.

Watch your facial expressions.

You may have had a feeling the proposal was coming or it may have been a complete surprise. Your beloved may have tried to do some research before popping the question but he may also have taken a few guesses. What you need to remember is that he is asking The Question. Your reaction is everything. Even if you are instantly disappointed, be careful not to look horrified or disgusted. This could result in a sense that it is the proposal itself that has disappointed you rather than the ring. Try to keep a neutral expression and say yes! You can then proceed to the ring discussion.

Be gentle but honest.

When having that discussion, it is essential to be honest and open about your feelings. This is a ring that you are expected to wear every day for the rest of your life together. If you are not fully happy with the style or design now, it is unlikely to grow on your later down the line. You may end up taking it off and storing it away somewhere rather than wearing it with pride. You don’t have to be harsh or unkind, however. Be honest and tell your love that you love the fact that he has thought about the ring but it is not the style you would choose yourself. You can then decide what steps to take next, as a couple.

Look at options together.

It may well be an heirloom ring rather than something he has had custom-made. If that is the case, you could look at making changes to the ring if there are parts you like. You could have the stones reset or you could look at a new band or adding additional stones, for example. If the ring was purchased as is, you could take it to a jeweller and customise it to your preferences. If it was custom-designed, you could look at redesigning the right if that is possible. At the absolute worst, most jewellers will have a return policy if returned within two weeks or less.

The most important thing is having a ring that you will love. Once you get past any awkwardness, you will be able to work together to find your dream engagement ring.

Bold and Beautiful Onyx Engagement Rings

While diamonds remain a timeless choice for engagement rings, adding a unique stone can give your ring a whole new dimension. One stone that certainly makes for a bold, beautiful ring is onyx. This stone is known for its deep black colour. It has a hardness rating of 7 on the Mohs scale, making it suitable for a ring that is worn daily. Some onyx stones have bands that range in colour from light to dark, while others are solid black. Used in an engagement ring, onyx will offset diamonds, adding an interesting balance that is eye-catching and unusual. Keep reading to see how this beautiful stone looks in rings for some inspiration.

Fall in Love With These Onyx Engagement Rings

Pave Pear

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Pear cut stones are a timeless choice, for good reason. With their teardrop shape, this stone can be worn with its tip on the bottom, or the top. It is very flattering for all finger sizes and lengths. The simple setting of this ring combined with the pave diamonds on its bands gives this ring a dedicatedly feminine touch.

Asymmetrical Marquise

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For something less conventional, this asymmetrical ring is sure to be a good choice. This ring has a simple band, with a centre marquise cut onyx and a cluster of three small diamonds to one side. Cluster rings are visually interesting, with various designs that step away from the traditional style of ring.

Pave Heart

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Heart cut stones are perfect for the romantic bride. A delicate band is set with three pave stones on each side of an onyx heart. Three stone rings are rich in symbolism, representing your past, present, and future. With three stones on each side and a heart, this is a ring for those dreaming of a lifetime of love.

Oval Ballerina

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Ballerina style rings have been a popular style for decades. The rings get their name from their tutu shaped fan that surrounds a centre stone. In this ring, a classic oval onyx takes centre stage, with diamonds forming the tutu around the stone.

Delicate Tiara

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Taking a chevron shape, tiara rings are great for stacking. They can also be worn on their own with a fine wedding band if you prefer something simple and minimal. In this design, onyx stones of various sizes are placed on the V of the chevron, giving the appearance of a tiara.

Minimal Hexagon

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On the topic of minimal rings, this delicate hexagon ring is subtle and pretty. Set in yellow gold, the onyx hexagon has a rounded centre stone. Tiny diamonds could be set around the stone for added sparkle. This ring would work well in any metal.

Classic Cushion

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Those looking for a classic ring that will never date will adore this cushion cut halo ring. Featuring a gleaming onyx in the centre, a halo of pave diamonds lead to a pave-encrusted band. The result is an elegant, timeless ring that stands out for all the right reasons.

Bezel Triangle

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Bezel cut engagement rings are perfect for those with an active lifestyle. The setting keeps the stone secure without the use of prongs. This ring has a plain yellow gold band and a triangular or trillion cut onyx stone taking centre stage. It would work equally well in white gold, rose gold, or platinum.

Cape Diamonds is here to turn your ring idea into a reality. Whether you are fascinated by the glossy black tone of onyx or you are looking for another stone or a classic diamond ring, we are here to help. Contact us today to find out more about creating your perfect engagement ring.