When Your Engagement Ring is Not Perfect…

As he starts to get down on his knee, and you see him open the engagement ring box, your heart skips a beat. It’s the moment you have been waiting for… the moment where he pops the most important question you have ever been asked. As the box opens, and you get a glimpse of the ring, your heart sinks a bit. As much as you adore your love, the ring is not what you had hoped.
This situation is a lot more common than you may realise. In the movies and on social media, rings are always perfect, with gasps of delight and excited selfies quickly following from the moment it is placed on the ring finger. In real life, engagement ring failure can and does happen. The good news is that it does not have to be the end of the world. There are several ways that you can deal with a hit or miss ring without hurting any feelings. Cape Diamonds brings you some tips on what to do when your engagement ring is not perfect.

Dealing With an Imperfect Engagement Ring

The best way to deal with this situation is to choose an engagement ring together so that there is no chance of disappointment. That is not always possible, however. If you are less than over the moon about your ring, here are some of the options you have on hand:


Replacing the ring with a style that you genuinely like can be the simplest option. If the ring is completely off the mark – something you would never wear, something that does not fit or something that you cannot ever see yourself liking – replacement is the best choice. Although it can be daunting to ask your love to swap your ring, open communication is essential. He will be happy if you are happy, so rather focus on how you can find a ring that you will love for the rest of your days.


If you mostly like the ring but it either does not fit properly or there is something minor that would make the ring easier to wear, you could look at doing a minor repair. You could replace a stone, enlarge or shrink the band to fit your finger, change a setting (this is not always possible, so always check with the jeweller) or make any other small change to the ring. This is a good compromise if the ring is almost right but not quite perfect.


The final option is to remodel or redesign the ring. This may end up costing more time and effort compared to replacing the ring. If you like certain elements on the ring, such as the metal, stone or setting, remodelling to add or remove features you do not like can change the ring without replacing it completely. Choose this option if you like something about the ring but want to add or remove any detail.

It is also always a good idea to be completely honest with your partner. When you can talk about potential changes in your ring or carefully let him know that the ring was not quite your style, it will be far easier to work together as a couple when making future designs.

At Cape Diamonds, we offer premium, beautifully-made custom engagement rings to suit every bride-to-be.