Before you get ready to reveal that beautiful engagement ring to your beloved, it is important to avoid falling prey to to the most common myths that surround proposals. While you may think that it is as simple as getting down on your knee and asking that all-important question, your love might not be as thrilled about the way you propose.
To understand the best way to go about popping the question, we suggest having a look at these common myths before getting out the engagement ring.
Remember These Myths When Getting Out That Engagement Ring
Everyone who has ever decided to ask the love of their love to marry them will get advice on how to pop the question. Many of the friends and family sharing advice mean well. Many might even believe that they are offering solid advice. But, before you get too carried away and start planning a movie style presentation of your engagement ring, it is a good idea to consider the following myths…
• Myth #1: Your proposal will be a shock
Your beloved may cry tears of joy and even a bit of surprise, but brides usually have at least a hunch of what is about to happen. In a survey done by The Knot, 64% of brides said that they know a proposal was in the works, but they just did not know when it would happen. Interestingly enough, 3% said that they micromanaged the process, telling their groom-to-be exactly when, where and how to propose. About 88% of brides stated that surprise is a good thing however. Even if she has a feeling that you might be ready to propose, you can still surprise her by making the event something special that she would not see coming.
• Myth #2: Diamond size does not matter
While it is important to understand the 4 Cs of diamond shopping (cut, carat, colour and clarity), size matters more than you might think. Quality is important, too, of course. In that survey done by The Knot, 68% of brides said that size is just as important as quality. Obviously, not everyone can afford a massive, high carat stone. A good way to ensure a large size is to opt for a cut that maximises the stone’s shape and size, such as an emerald cut.
• Myth #3: The groom gets to pick the ring
Considering that brides will wear this ring for the rest of their lives, it goes without saying that she should have some say in the ring’s style. Surprisingly, not very many brides have nothing to do with the ring. Many couples work together to decide on a style, while others shop for rings together. At the very least, you should know what metal she prefers, what stones she likes, what cut she prefers, and what sort of ring style she favour prefers. Taking a wild guess may end up with her having to wear a ring she is not hugely in love with (never a good thing).
• Myth #4: You can’t go wrong with a public proposal
In the movies, the scenes where women are wooed by a proposal done in a busy sports stadium, with thousands of fans cheering on, or in the middle of a train station, with a flash mob provided for effect may look amazing. In reality, very OTT, very public proposals can be overwhelming and a little embarrassing. Pressuring her in front of a crowd to say yes to your engagement ring might not have the effect you want. Instead, aim for a personal, private moment.
• Myth #5: Ethical diamonds are a fad
It is absolutely imperative that you source your ring through a reputable jeweller who deals in conflict-free diamonds. While the ‘green’ movement may seem like a fad, ethical diamonds are the only sure-fire way to know that your diamond has not been obtained from a war ridden destination that deals in blood diamonds.
Once you have put some thought into what not to do, it will be easier to start planning a proposal to remember.