What to do if You Don’t Love Your Engagement Ring

Few moments are as unforgettable as the moment you are presented with an engagement ring. Whether your beloved planned a proposal that will go down in history as the most romantic event of all time or it was a deeply personal event for just the two of you, seeing that ring and hearing those words is something you will remember forever.

What happens if the ring you are given is not something you would have chosen yourself? Worse still, what happens if you know at first sight you don’t see yourself wearing it day in and day out? Being unhappy about an engagement ring may seem like the end of the world but it doesn’t have to be if you handle the situation properly.

What Happens if You Don’t Adore Your Engagement Ring?

To avoid the most romantic moment of your life turning into something awkward or uncomfortable, here are a few tips to consider if you don’t love your engagement ring.

Watch your facial expressions.

You may have had a feeling the proposal was coming or it may have been a complete surprise. Your beloved may have tried to do some research before popping the question but he may also have taken a few guesses. What you need to remember is that he is asking The Question. Your reaction is everything. Even if you are instantly disappointed, be careful not to look horrified or disgusted. This could result in a sense that it is the proposal itself that has disappointed you rather than the ring. Try to keep a neutral expression and say yes! You can then proceed to the ring discussion.

Be gentle but honest.

When having that discussion, it is essential to be honest and open about your feelings. This is a ring that you are expected to wear every day for the rest of your life together. If you are not fully happy with the style or design now, it is unlikely to grow on your later down the line. You may end up taking it off and storing it away somewhere rather than wearing it with pride. You don’t have to be harsh or unkind, however. Be honest and tell your love that you love the fact that he has thought about the ring but it is not the style you would choose yourself. You can then decide what steps to take next, as a couple.

Look at options together.

It may well be an heirloom ring rather than something he has had custom-made. If that is the case, you could look at making changes to the ring if there are parts you like. You could have the stones reset or you could look at a new band or adding additional stones, for example. If the ring was purchased as is, you could take it to a jeweller and customise it to your preferences. If it was custom-designed, you could look at redesigning the right if that is possible. At the absolute worst, most jewellers will have a return policy if returned within two weeks or less.

The most important thing is having a ring that you will love. Once you get past any awkwardness, you will be able to work together to find your dream engagement ring.